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“I’m a failure if my boss has some edits to this report.”

“I’ll never get it all done. There’s always something more I can do.”

“I don’t know what perfect looks like. Nothing will ever be ‘enough.’”

“I need to go over this document again; I’m sure I’ve missed something.”

“I won’t get that promotion if my manager finds a typo in this document.”

“Making sure I get this exactly right is more important than getting a full night’s sleep.”

“People will think I’m stupid if I don’t know the answer to their question.”

If any of these statements resonate…

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Therapy is a wonderful space to work through difficult issues, gain insight into problematic behavior, heal from trauma, and grow in your understanding of who you are and what you want.

Many people start therapy with optimism and hope for change, but sometimes they encounter barriers that prevent them from achieving their therapy goals. This experience can be discouraging as well as perpetuate some of the very issues that brought them into therapy to begin with.

When this happens, they may feel frustrated and discouraged, wondering if therapy just isn’t for them.

Often times, though, therapy itself isn’t the problem…

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Much of the world’s population is on a continual mission to be happy — an emotion that may seem elusive at times or even like a secret code that you just can’t crack.

It can feel discouraging, and even disheartening, to compare social media feeds and feel overwhelmed by the feeling that you are lacking some crucial information when to comes to how to find happiness.

But feeling happy is possible — for all of us. And while there isn’t a specific formula, there are some things you can proactively do to be happy more often.

Here are five secrets…

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Depression affects more than 16 million people in the U.S., but only a small percentage of those people seek treatment, and even fewer manage their symptoms holistically.

A holistic approach to treating mental illness means that the whole person is taken into account when formulating coping strategies and actionable steps to care for oneself. It means supporting the mind, body, and spirit as well as the relationships in our lives.

One of the primary symptoms of depression is lack of motivation. …

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One year ago, we were really just starting to feel the impact of COVID-19 in the US. Prior to March 2019, COVID had been blazing a trail around the world, shutting cities down in its wake. But March was when many cities around United States went into lockdown.

COVID times have challenged each of us in unique ways, and we’re all coping differently. Many are struggling in relationships with partners, family, and friends. Many feel isolated. Many are more aware of their mental health struggles. Many feel hopeless.

At the same time, many have sought mental health support, some for…

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Showing up for ourselves is an ongoing practice of tuning in and meeting our own needs in the moment. There’s not a single way of showing up, and the way in which we show up for ourselves will vary day-to-day, situation-to-situation.

Because showing up is fluid, it requires intentional effort and checking in with ourselves. The more we get to know ourselves and listen to what our minds and bodies are telling us, the better we’ll be able to discern our needs and do our best to meet them.

So, where to start in cultivating a practice of showing up…

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By now you probably know what self-care is and why humans need to cultivate a regular self-care practice.

Most likely, your self-care routine involves “fun” stuff like face masks, reading, or listening to music — things that are relaxing. Those are great and necessary and sometimes it’s helpful to go deeper and expand the way we think about self-care in order to combat the emotional stress many of us are feeling right now.

So, in an effort to help you think outside the box when it comes to self-care, here’s a list of 10 non-fluffy ways to practice restorative self-care.

Drink plenty of water

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Have you ever felt like you’re in a funk that you can’t get out of?

Maybe you’ve tried a few things to feel better, but nothing’s worked.

Maybe you’ve talked about it with a friend or partner.

Maybe you’ve tried journaling.

Maybe you’ve just ignored it, hoping it would pass.

But it’s been days, weeks, or maybe even months, and you’re at a loss for what’s going on and how to make it better. In case you need to hear this, nothing is wrong with you for feeling that way. It’s human to feel down sometimes.

At the same time…

Deepen your relationships by upping your vulnerability game.

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Vulnerability is a common fear for many people. It can be scary to share how you feel, ask for what you want, and be completely authentic. With the risk of rejection lurking, you may feel the urge to silence yourself and hold back from sharing.

At the same time, humans are wired for connection, which means that we need relationships in order to feel whole and fulfilled. And, more than that, we need them to be deep and meaningful.

Vulnerability is a direct path to cultivating nourishing and long-lasting relationships. …

Answers will come when you continue to seek.

We’ve all been there, confused about what’s next and even more confused about how to figure it out.

When we are in this place for some time, we start to feel frustrated in our “stuckness,” which only exacerbates the problem.

If this resonates with you right now, ask yourself these six questions to help bring clarity to your life.

Am I try to rush change?

Many of us want change to happen overnight, but usually change is a slow burn.

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t seek answers, try new things, or consider what might be holding you back, but it does mean that change happens…

Darcie Brown

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